Can’t Help But Feel the Pain
by the secret keeper
10.4.12

enchanted woods
Can’t Help But Feel the Pain
By the secret keeper
10.4.12
Written on National Poetry Day
To know first love
Only romantic love
The first time you love
The first time love
Touches you
It is your first time
To know that gentle caress
What is that really like?
What is it really like
When you know
You will never know
That feeling
That feeling
That was stolen
From you
From your body
It can never be returned
The thieves that stole it
Had no concern
They didn’t care
Taking that moment
Away from you
They felt that it was theirs
It is not a moment
That happens but once
When it is stolen
It never happens at all
When true love comes
The touch inside your body
It is gone away
Lost in the ether
Captured by the keeper
Of unsafe moments
The memories locked away
So your body won’t remember
What the thieves did
On all those horrible
Nights and days
If you do remember
They return in nightmares
Wide awake ‘mares
Trampling your mind
With images of pain
And cruelty
Being safe again
And free
Means letting go
Of the pain
The torture
Locked inside
Your body
And in your mind
Scream out the pain
Tear out the thoughts
That cloud your brain
Stop the torture
That keeps you
From trust and love
Believing it is real
Not something
That will hurt
And haunt your soul
Trust good love
Real love
It does exist
Let love in
Don’t run away
Let the bad feelings go
Let the good feelings in
Say goodbye to the torture
And pain from childhood
It needs to come to an end
It is time now to trust
In your friends
They will care for you
And love you
And not hurt you
The way you were
Hurt back then
It really is over
It is time to let love in
And let it stay
And it’s time you
Trusted love
To give some
Of yours away
You do it anyway
You’re just not aware
That you share love
In many different ways
© Jennifer Kiley 2012



“Many abused children cling to the hope that growing up will bring escape and freedom.
But the personality formed in the environment of coercive control is not well adapted to adult life. The survivor is left with fundamental problems in basic trust, autonomy, and initiative. She approaches the task of early adulthood-establishing independence and intimacy-burdened by major impairments in self-care, in cognition and in memory, in identity, and in the capacity to form stable relationships.
She is still a prisoner of her childhood; attempting to create a new life, she reencounters the trauma.” ~ Judith Lewis Herman ~ Trauma and Recovery