Yelling at a child shows that we, the adults, are out of control of our own emotions.
Children need safe boundaries within which they can explore, make mistakes, try and fail, win, lose and learn. Inquisitive children push boundaries, both physical and emotional. This is necessary if a child is to develop its own identity.
If adults are emotionally dysfunctional, they react when personal boundaries are breached. They lash out and blame the little one.
When an adult is out of control, the little one’s world is rocked; his or her sense of security is destroyed. In that moment, a child stands alone, abandoned, unable to cope; its identity is under threat, made wrong. A child’s will is thwarted, twisted and subverted. Innocence is emotionally raped by the adult’s displaced anger. Emotionally abused children are made responsible for the adult’s rage.
Surrounding reactions shape a child’s developing Psyche. When an adult…